Are You a Lover or a Fighter in Relationships?
Answer honestly to discover your conflict resolution style
Question 1
of 8
1. When your partner criticizes you, your first reaction is to...
A. Listen calmly and consider their perspective
B. Defend yourself and explain your position
C. Withdraw or change the subject
D. Get angry and criticize back
2. During arguments, you typically...
A. Try to find a compromise quickly
B. Stand your ground on important issues
C. Give in to avoid further conflict
D. Escalate the argument to make your point
3. When feeling hurt in a relationship, you usually...
A. Communicate your feelings openly but gently
B. Confront the issue directly
C. Keep it to yourself to avoid drama
D. Express your hurt through anger or sarcasm
4. Your approach to relationship disagreements is...
A. Collaborative - we work together to solve problems
B. Competitive - I want to win the argument
C. Avoidant - I prefer not to argue at all
D. Confrontational - I address issues head-on
5. When tension builds in your relationship, you...
A. Initiate calm conversation to resolve it
B. Wait for your partner to address it first
C. Distract yourself or pretend everything's fine
D. Confront the tension aggressively
6. How do you handle your partner's anger?
A. Stay calm and try to understand the source
B. Match their energy to show you're serious too
C. Shut down or leave the situation
D. Get defensive and fight back
7. When you know you're right about something, you...
A. Gently explain your perspective
B. Insist on being heard until they agree
C. Let it go to keep the peace
D. Argue forcefully to prove your point
8. Your ideal conflict resolution leads to...
A. Mutual understanding and strengthened connection
B. Clear resolution of who was right/wrong
C. Quick return to normal without addressing underlying issues
D. Your partner admitting they were wrong